After no luck with installing J Relay and 213 and some more research, it looks that the green 104/108 needs to be replaced with a grey colored 104/108. Now it's time to get the grey relay and sell both green ones. Getting there, slowly

Might be oversized but for sure it's one of them TORXs I remember getting a set of them at Home Depot for $20 and they have been useful working on Volvos. Harbor Freight might have them as well.