The O2 sensor in this car isn't the one with the red thing that you pull to release the harness connector. Instead it has this:
TOP:

SIDE (both sides look the same):

The bottom has the slot where it slides onto the little bracket holder that anchors it to the car.
On FPC Groton they show the disconnected connector looking like this:

How in blue blazes do I disconnect this thing?
The pics are actually better than the view I get since I put my cell phone down in the car to take them. It looks like in the first picture (Top) that I need to do something to that odd looking area where the tab on the connector (in pic 3 from FCP Groton) must lock into something.... but I'm at a loss. I've shoved flat head screwdrivers in there and nothing seems to release. I don't want to break this thing.
I've fooled with this thing off an on for a few days when I get a few minutes (it's my work car and I have a regular car to drive while this one is out of commission) and I've probably put a good hour total into looking at it from above, below... etc.
I've searched the forums high and low, the older model 850 docs and Haynes Repair Manual... and the web and found nothing.
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